“The main reason for early ejaculation is a man’s failure to pick up how close he is to ejaculation” – Said the founder of the Human Sexuality Program in New York.
If you never ever want to have that awkward experience of too soon climaxing in your pants or within 1-2 minutes then you will need to establish something called your Arousal Awareness. This is what the quote refers to.
You probably aren’t able to find out how excited you are until you get that sensation in your groin that you are exceptionally near climaxing. This is a lack of sexual awareness.
This absence of sexual awareness is extremely bad since it triggers ridiculously humiliating experiences, you might end up too soon climaxing in your pants. You may ejaculate when she is placing on a condom, you may climax when you enter her or soon after.
Not being able to “check out” your very own arousal levels is the main factor you prematurely climax.
When you learn how to read your arousal levels you will know when to slow down and what to do in order to avoid climaxing in your pants or as quickly as you begin having sex.
By comprehend your arousal levels you get amazing control over your body and acquiring this arousal awareness is among the first steps you need to take if you wish to get rid of premature ejaculation and last longer.
You can measure your stimulation level on a scale of 1-10.
At level 1 you are simply getting excited, at level 10 you are so aroused that you are ejaculating.
When you climax in your trousers you probably get to level 9.5 but given that you have bad arousal awareness you don’t recognize it and as soon as she gives you a stroke or more you get to level 10 and you ejaculate.
When you masturbate, do you constantly understand how close you are to climaxing?
If not, your arousal awareness is bad.
You primarily got this bad arousal awareness because you are sidetracked when you masturbate, you watch pornography or think, you aren’t present in the minute and you definitely aren’t concentrated on the experiences in your penis.
By constantly disregarding the experiences that you feel you wind up losing the ability to know when you are close to ejaculation, and you also lose the routine of checking in with yourself.
This failure to pick up how close you are to ejaculation at all times triggers premature ejaculation.
Here’s how to establish arousal awareness so that you can secure yourself from premature ejaculation.
Do not try to ejaculate as quickly as possible and do not try to last longer than you normally would when you masturbate do so without rush.
Check in with yourself every 10-15 seconds and see how it feels in your penis.
In the beginning it might feel a little unusual due to the fact that you aren’t utilized to this.
When you get to that point where you understand precisely how much stimulation you can take in the past you ejaculate, the simpler it will be to slow down. You can change positions or take a 15 second break and NOT too soon climax.
The reason an absence of sexual awareness is the primary cause of early ejaculation is this, when you don’t know how much sexual stimulation you can take, you might end up starting sex when you are at a level 9 on your stimulation scale, this makes you climax as quickly as she touches you.
Think about it, if you are at level 9 you will only need 1-2 minutes of sexual stimulation to get to level 10 and climax.
If however, you start having sex when you are at level 3, then you will need 10 minutes of sexual stimulation prior to you get to level 10 and ejaculate.
If you can read your arousal levels you can decrease and get it as low as possible prior to sex starts and right away you will be able to last longer.